Micah and I spent some together this morning just the two of us at the March for Midwives, put together by the Alabama Birth Coalition. She is such a sweet, tough little creature who always leaves me with reason to marvel. I was proud to take her to yet another march for, yes, yet another cause which I think is important.
When Max was still in diapers, I thought long and hard about what good parenting really meant. And then I met a man who shared my visions and agreed to go that heady adventure called “family” in which we would work out our visions and ideals in the day-to-day. While Patrick and I do not agree on absolutely everything, I am grateful for our differences and the mutual respect which keeps our dialogue from growing stale or petrified. My favorite part of the day is still that time of the night when we steal sleepish moments to discuss everything under the sun.
So back to the March for Midwives– and to the concern on the part of some friends and family that perhaps we protesteth too much. Our good parenting test is a historical one. If we raise our children in such a way that they would be unable to live in a Nazi Germany without speaking out and standing against it, we will feel we have done a good job. I don’t care if Max, Micah, or Milla pursue professional careers or “make a name for themselves” so much as I care if they are kind, gentle, and conscientious persons who refuse to settle for or accept a world in which cruelty is just “part of life”. So that’s my test– would Max, Micah, or Milla refuse to live under a Nazi regime which killed Jews, homosexuals, the handicapped, and other groups?
And a greater part of pedagogy involves playing an active role in our community which involves standing up for causes we believe are just, fair, and consistent with the kindness which acts for love of our fellow man. So we protest. And march. And sign petitions. And carol for veterans. And try not to look the other way when someone is suffering. And today, we marched with other community members who wish to see an immediate end to the legal persecution of midwives in the state of Alabama.
Oh, and did you know that Paul Bear Bryant was born at home?